David's Bridal.. Part Deux!

So we took a trip to David's Bridal once again but this time to the one out in Brooklyn, NY. Wow, what a difference a borough makes!

While there we waited several minutes for someone to greet us and ask how we could be helped (no one was at the guest table) and finally when someone did come out it was several more minutes before we were seen. Not too bad, but considering the place looked like a ghost town I kind of wondered what was the hold up.

At any rate, the assistant we did receive left A LOT to be desired. She found the dress I came to try on, walked us to a dressing room, handed the dress to Sha and walked away. Ummm... isn't it her job to HELP the customer!?!? What if Sha wasn't with me, who would have helped me dress?!?!? Now mind you after getting much better service at the DB in Manhattan and an assistant who dressed me, that was my expectation for my visit here. NOPE!

So before she could get any where I asked Sha to ask her for the bustier (assistant at the Manhattan DB had put one on me at that fitting) and although she did get it for us, it was all she did. Ummm. So I try on the dress which is too small and I ask for the next size. After a few minutes of her disappearing she comes back and says "we don't have a size 20 here's a 22 to try". As Sha once again is helping me to get dressed we both realized right away that this gown is way to big. Not so much because a size 22 is bigger than the size 20 I had asked for, but maybe because Ms. 'Bright' assistant had given me a TWENTY FOUR!!!

She then has the nerve to come back and say, "oh that's too big you will need a 22". Huh?!?! what?!?!? .. so you mean she KNEW it was a 24 and not the 22 she said it was!?!? Sha got me the heck out of that gown and we were about to be out of there. Of course as we strolled out we couldn't help but look through the racks of gowns and so on our way out we got a lovely surprise....

.... a size 20 gown smiling and waving "ya'll come back now, ya hear".

I guess SHE didn't have a size 20 for me to try on but the rack did!

Bridal Debate -- Would You Wear a Red Dress on Your Wedding Day?

Bridal Debate -- Would You Wear a Red Dress on Your Wedding Day?

 

Although traditional isn't so 'traditional' any more....

.......and we all know there ain't nothing traditional about my upcoming nuptials, I still can't see myself in a wedding gown of my favorite color; purple. That thought immediately leads me to a vision of Baby Bop all grown up in a wedding dress & veil!

This doesn't mean I will be in the virginal white (let's not go there people), but even as unconventional as my wedding may be there is still a tiny bit of that girlie girl inside me that envisions a 'traditional' bride look.

Only time will tell.....

Two Brides Can...

Well of course as we've been planning our wedding many kinds of thoughts have gone through my mind. Once of which includes the fact that as two brides Sha and I have never really encountered any problems (ie: homophobia, bigotry, etc..) That got me to thinking that there are actually 'perks' to being two brides that most heterosexual women planning a wedding will never experience. Follow me :::

Two brides can..... have someone else to talk about their wedding with from sun up to sun down.


Two brides can..... go wedding gown shopping without the stress of deciding which best friend to invite.


Two brides can..... surf online for wedding resources without the other half of the couple become completely bored.


Two brides can..... look through tons of wedding magazines and have someone to compare notes with.


Two brides can..... join wedding blogs & forums and then discuss the information and things others post.


Two brides can..... go from one venue right to the next and not feel like a break is needed.


Two brides can..... have a food, cake, etc.. tasting and not think our mate is gonna think we just a stone cold pig.


Two brides can..... attend wedding expos without the other feeling like they're missing a game some where.


Two brides can..... enjoy reading vendor, photographers, florist etc... contracts and both read the fine print.


Two brides can..... write a check for something wedding related, and not wonder if we should have gotten the car fixed instead.


Two brides can..... hire a photographer just because we like him, & not wonder if we should have been more concerned about the price.


Two brides can..... try on each others prospective wedding gowns.


Two brides can..... stress over wedding invitations together.


Two brides can..... like the same veil, gown, shoes, bouquet, garter, etc...without any suspicions.


Two brides can..... change their wedding colors (several times) without the other person rolling their eyes.


Two brides can..... start a wedding blog, website etc.. and discuss what two brides can!

(*disclaimer::: I'm not saying all of these things happen to every same sex female couple planning a wedding, and in fact I am sure there is plenty I've left out. I'm just saying though.... lol)

Darn it!!

So yesterday we decided to journey out to Michael's (I'm starting to wonder if we are gluttons for punishment) in search of invitations once again. This time we found a store in Portchester, NY which is about 25 minutes out of the city. We've past this store several times on our way out to Stamford, CT and wondered if we should give it a shot. Well yesterday we did and still came home empty handed.

It wasn't all bad though as they had an even bigger selection than the two Michael's we have visited previously. At any rate we later found ourselves at the Palisades Mall in West Nyack,NY checking out their card stores but lo and behold instead we came across a dress shop that sold plus sized gowns (Camille La Vie). From the look of what was in their windows we most certainly did not think they would have anything bigger than a size 2, let alone bridal gowns up to size 24. Well they did and this brought about another unscheduled wedding gown try-out (we had our first a view weeks ago at RK Bridal in Manhattan). Sad to say we didn't find anything, BUT happy to say that they did have some gowns for us fuller figured gals. Their dresses however, were not 'W's which meant that if you tried on a 20 it was not a 20W, and so therefore you'd really need to try on a 22. So basically, your street size is a 20 but your bridal size there might be a 22 or even 24.

The other 'plus' to this shop was that their starting prices for wedding gowns was $299. That in itself is a bargain and we are so bummed that we didn't find anything there for us! So it looks like David's Bridal is still the top dog of cheap wedding gown for us at $549 & $599 a pop. I know they say once you find your dress you should stop looking, but we just can't help wondering whether or not a cheaper gown is really out there for us and we just haven't found it yet. We both agree that we really don't want to spent a fortune on something we can only wear once. Neither of us are 'Sex In The City' gals!

Invitation-ly Challenged

Why does it seem that the things that should be the least trivial turn out to be the most trivial?!?! Yesterday we decided to check out Michael's again, it's a big craft store for those who don't know, since there is a semi new one that opened up in the city. We didn't really have any high hopes about the trip because when we went the first time the invitations they had really left a lot to be desired and the thought of making them ourselves had past. Well even though this time was much better, just in the sense that they had a lot more choices, we still did not fair well at all.

At first nothing was in our colors. Then when we did see one, it was just ugly. So yes Michaels' does have inexpensive invites but only if cheesy is your cup of tea. Now on the other hand if you've got that 'crafty' eye then Michael's is the place where your creative juices can flooooowwww. They have so many tools for card making, scrap booking, wood working, painting etc.. and so creating an invitation from their tools of the trade should be easy if this is your talent.

Since this talent is not ours we were just lost in the sauce as we looked through rows of papers, stamps, embellishments etc... It was at that precise moment I realized: this invitation search is becoming my achilles heel. You see prior to this trip I had been searching online for that 'perfect' invitation. From the websites of online sellers, to invitation you design sites, to the place an order and DIY printing websites, I feel like I've seen it all.

A while back we engaged in some 'premature' shopping and ordered a save-the-date and invitation sample. Even though we liked it we really hadn't settled on our colors, a theme, our flowers etc... so we ended up not going with those because they don't match what we eventually did settle on. Now for me, that doesn't really matter as I think these are purely things that people won't really care about & they will be come garbage as soon as they return from our wedding. Sha however, has the gift of stylishness, and a flair for what looks good and so even though we differ in this capacity there is no way we are going to end up with anything tacky. At least not tacky to us.

All this to say.... why does THIS part of our wedding preparation have to be so time consuming, mind boggling, and difficult!?!? After all, isn't it just a molehill?!?!

Envy...

I am a sinner...
Let me explain.

One of the 7 deadly sins is envy (to desire for others' traits, status, abilities, or situation). Now I have never been one to envy anyone because I'm a firm believer that not everything in life is meant to be mine, or rightfully mine. Well today as I continued our search for invitations I started to wonder why I couldn't be one of those talented people who could DIY the majority of our wedding odds and ends, not only because it would save us some money but also because it would give us that 'personal' touch we can't seem to find.

I said to myself, "self...., where is your DIY talent!?!?". Now fortunately I didn't answer back, but I did realize I am envious. I am envious of all those who were on that 'creativity' line when the higher power, or mother nature, or whomever was giving them out at that gate.

As for me, I must have been at the snack hut. Again. lol

!!CHEERS!! to all you awesome DIY Brides, you RULE!!!

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Update:.... Sha and I have plans to incorporate this into our wedding in some form or fashion. We think this is awesome AND are happy that we have support from so many people.